After all these years being in and out of relationships, there are several things that i realize as axioms on this mating game, and any efforts to change them are foolish, if not futile. Therefore i compile the do’s and dont’s of this matter. Please be forewarned, these may not for those who seek love.
After all these years being in and out of relationships, there are several things that i realize as axioms on this mating game, and any efforts to change them are foolish, if not futile.
Therefore i compile the do’s and dont’s of this matter.
Please be forewarned, these may not for those who seek love.
1. Dont rush it, keep your options open.
Lets get real, women like to be chased, why do you think they mostly play hard to get?
(well, okay, there is a slight chance that they dont like you, but then, thats an easily modifiable variable, aint it?)So then, why to haste? you’ll both enjoy the prolonged game of chase and run. Keep the relationship casual until its ready. In the mean time, you have the chance to eye those things they hide from you at first meetings.
Find something fundamental to hold on to, may that be just plain beauty or greatness in character, that if she has it, nothing else is really important.
Be a pleasure delayer. And if you get a better option before you say the words of commitment, why stay?
2. Don’t be needy, dump ‘em if they do.
If you are the kind of person who needs constant re-assurance, then you are not ready for a serious relationship yet.
I mean, really! who wants to have a relationship with such a cry-baby?
When commiting your ‘allegiance’ to somebody, you have to make sure that both parties are ready for that huge of responsibility.
You have to make sure that, when either of you are needing each other, It has got to be THAT important.
Constant re-assurance is not for romantic relationship, it’s what parents do to their children.
3. Take many chances to hook up, but only 1 time for break up. Re-bounding is for loosers.
Now that you’re sure that she’s the one, ask her to commit. You might get many no’s, but dont give up, ask her the reason, change yourself, then ask her again and again.
Persistence, my friend, is the name of the game.
When you finally get into a relationship, commit wholeheartedly, however hard that is.
But take no compromises, when somehow the word break-up is spitted out, for whatever reasons, however small and petty, you must even put more persistence to really, really break up.
Its a matter of principle, of yours and hers. By principle i mean, when it ceases to exist, you cease to exist.
When the relationship has been damaged by the lack of faith on either part of you, it will be alot easier for it to happen again in the future between the two of you.
Really, its not worth it anymore.
4. Pick your role, you better be the hunter.
On following those rules above, you might find some peculiarities. You might be able to be the best pleasure delayer ever, but she might not be.
You just have to make the line here. You are the one who should ask for commitment. If not, then there’s no point of the existence of other rules.
That means, there is no point for you not to being rushy, or even commited.
It’s not your loss, it’s hers. Just say no. And thats it.
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